Ask A Dumb Cat: What To Do When You "Accidentally" Sleep With Your Friend Fun Love

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Dear Dumb Cat

I made the very big mistake of sleeping with my friend and it did not end well. Now I don't know whether to be mad at him or to just let it go and pretend like it didn't happen. In any case it is making our other friends uncomfortable and I hate that. What should I do??

sincerely,

Oopsidaisey

Dear Oopsidaisey,

When a relationship moves from a place where you're comfortable to a place where you're uncomfortable, the real thing that is a thing that you seriously need to be figuring out is what, exactly, you're uncomfortable about. Are you mad because it happened? Or are you mad because it stopped happening? And whom are you mad at? Him? Or you? Or are you mad at the situation — because the whole thing is a mess and you just wish your friends didn't know about it and everything could just go back to THE WAY IT WAS? Trust me, I know that feeling.

And I'm going to be honest with you when I say that I don't always actually manage to do this myself because it is HARD, but I DO know what the thing is that is the thing that I have to do in this situation if I want it to get better. And, sorry, but that you have to do as well. We all have to do this if we want to continue pretending that we are adults and to continue living in a world with other adults who sometimes maybe we accidentally sleep with even when maybe that was an awful, devastating, STUPID idea.

Ready?

OK, you're going to need to get comfortable for this, but bear with me. Lie down on your back and put your feet in the air. Good? Now, start to attack your feet with your other feet as if, like, suddenly they have a mind of their own and omg, YOUR OWN FEET ARE TRYING TO KILL YOU. Then all of a sudden get really scared of something invisible and jump up and run into the other room as if your life depended on it. Next time you see your friend, bite him on the left ankle.

Yours,

A Dumb Cat

Dear Dumb Cat,

I've been in a happy relationship for nearly 2 years. Things are great and wonderful between us and I plan on being with this person for a long time. However, I've recently developed a crush on a manager at work who is also in a relationship. What do I do?

Troubled By Feels

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Ask A Dumb Cat: What To Do When You "Accidentally" Sleep With Your Friend Fun Love